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3 Powerful Steps To Boost Up Your Self-Confidence!
By Taidin Suhaimin
Without any doubt, self confidence is the key to fulfillment. Our belief of ourselves has a huge impact
on how others perceive us. The more self confidence we've got the more
likely we're to succeed. If we aren't confident, how are we able to thrive?
Self-confidence is not only crucial to our performance in the work place
but also an essential component to create and hold healthy relationships. Having self confidence means we
are powerful, engaging and inspiring as we are comfortable with ourselves.
Self-assured people glide towards a goal or an action with a sense of
purpose, believing whatever is possible. Until
our self confidence is really high and we no longer permit others negativity to affect us, we need to keep away
people at all costs. We must only hang with people who champion, inspire and support us in our dreams and visions.
Here are 3 powerful steps that will boost up your self-esteem and self-confidence!
1. Positively Trust Yourself
lies next to positive thinking. If you think positively of yourself and
take stock of all positive attributes you have while taking into
consideration the worth of those you lack, then you can make
yourself believe that you can actually make things happen.
When you think positive, positive things will happen. When you think negative, negative things will happen! Life is only as good as your mindset. We become what we think and believe.
Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity and associate yourself with positivity! Never
associate yourself with someone you can’t be proud of, whether he works
for you or you work for him.
Therefore, it is important to believe in
yourself and have faith in your abilities! Without a reasonable
confidence in your own powers, you cannot achieve success or happiness.
is the first secret of success.
" - Ralph Waldo Emerson
2. Rewire Your Brain! Damages come from within us. Other people
may argue that we are affected by exterior negativities. True, yet this
would only impinge on us if we allow entrance towards ourselves. No one
can make us feel inferior without our consent. Recreating
the comments to yourself will give an enormous impact on your
"Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you." - Merrt Lou Retton
means expecting the best, but confidence means knowing how to handle
the worst. Never make a move if you are merely optimistic." - The Zurich Axioms
When you believe that you are what you think and believe, then your life
will truly stems from your thoughts. But, we cannot rely solely on our thoughts;
we must translate our thoughts into words and eventually into actions in
order to manifest our intentions. This means that we have to be very careful
with our thoughts and words, choosing to think and speak only those which work towards our
benefits and cultivate our highest good.
Affirmations help purify our
thoughts and restructure the dynamic of our brains so that we truly
begin to think that nothing is impossible. The word affirmation comes from
the Latin affirmare, originally meaning “to make steady, strengthen.” Affirmations do indeed strengthen us by helping us believe in the
potential of an action we desire to manifest. When we verbally affirm
our dreams and ambitions, we are instantly empowered with a deep sense
of reassurance that our wishful words will become reality.
Affirmations are proven methods of self-improvement because of their
ability to rewire our brains. Much like exercise, they raise the level
of feel-good hormones and push our brains to form new clusters of
“positive thought” neurons. In the sequence of thought-speech-action, affirmations play an integral
role by breaking patterns of negative thoughts, negative speech, and,
in turn, negative actions.
The art of the spoken word is critical in crafting our futures. We influence the
universe word by word. If we dictate to it our wishes, it will respond.
When we utter a sound, we emit a sound wave into the universe. This
sound wave pierces through the air and becomes a real object. It
therefore exists in our world, intangible and invisible. No words are
empty words, as every syllable we speak engages energy towards or
against us. If you constantly say “I can’t,” the energy of your words
will ward off the universal force against you. But if you constantly say “I can!” the
universe will bestow you with the abilities to do just that.
away; relinquish your fears and purge your anger, predict your own
future and live up to your potential with the 35 affirmations by Dr. Carmen Harra that will
change your life:
I am the architect of my life; I build its foundation and choose its contents.
Today, I am brimming with energy and overflowing with joy.
My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.
I am superior to negative thoughts and low actions.
I have been given endless talents which I begin to utilize today.
I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.
A river of compassion washes away my anger and replaces it with love.
I am guided in my every step by Spirit who leads me towards what I must know and do.
(If you’re married) My marriage is becoming stronger, deeper, and more stable each day.
I possess the qualities needed to be extremely successful.
(For business owners) My business is growing, expanding, and thriving.
Creative energy surges through me and leads me to new and brilliant ideas.
Happiness is a choice. I base my happiness on my own accomplishments and the blessings I’ve been given.
My ability to conquer my challenges is limitless; my potential to succeed is infinite.
(For those who are unemployed) I deserve to be employed and paid
well for my time, efforts, and ideas. Each day, I am closer to finding
the perfect job for me.
I am courageous and I stand up for myself.
My thoughts are filled with positivity and my life is plentiful with prosperity.
Today, I abandon my old habits and take up new, more positive ones.
Many people look up to me and recognize my worth; I am admired.
I am blessed with an incredible family and wonderful friends.
I acknowledge my own self-worth; my confidence is soaring.
Everything that is happening now is happening for my ultimate good.
I am a powerhouse; I am indestructible.
Though these times are difficult, they are only a short phase of life.
My future is an ideal projection of what I envision now.
My efforts are being supported by the universe; my dreams manifest into reality before my eyes.
(For those who are single) The perfect partner for me is coming into my life sooner than I expect.
I radiate beauty, charm, and grace.
I am conquering my illness; I am defeating it steadily each day.
My obstacles are moving out of my way; my path is carved towards greatness.
I wake up today with strength in my heart and clarity in my mind.
My fears of tomorrow are simply melting away.
I am at peace with all that has happened, is happening, and will happen.
My nature is Divine; I am a spiritual being.
My life is just beginning.
You can use any of the affirmations (by Dr. Carmen Harra) alone or create your own
unique combination based on your personal wishes and needs. What is most
important is to establish a profound communication with the universe —
so, say it with conviction, say it in your own unique voice, and make it
happen in the real world.
“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.” ― J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan
3. Barr Negative Thoughts!
We all have been our own critics at
one point of our lives. Unnecessary
criticisms don't only make us susceptible to negative thoughts, they
also impinge on our overall personal perspectives. With
every harmful input we receive from this critic, we are left disturbed and unconfident. It is like tearing the walls that we have built for
long in place for a few unjust remarks that we hardly ever need. Therefore, stay away from using disapproving statements
about yourself because these are the very things that would eventually
strip you off of your good self-image.
Thankfully, however, there are many practical things you can do to help yourself stop negative thinking patterns.
Here are 5 of the most effective techniques adapted from a great article by Katherine Hurst
1. Thought Stopping
When you notice that negative thoughts or images are starting to enter into your mind, try actually say “stop!” to yourself. If you’re alone, you can try saying this out loud, but it can also be very effective when just said in your head.
If you prefer, you can use language that’s stronger than “stop” (such as “Get out of my head!”
or even something a bit more colorful). For people who aren’t as moved
by words, images can be more powerful. The classic example is a bright red stop sign that you picture in your mind’s eye when intrusive thoughts begin to appear.
2. Positive Affirmations
Positive affirmations can be used in a couple of different ways.
First, they might be deployed in the same way as thought stopping
techniques—in other words, you might say an affirmation as soon as you
feel a negative thought coming your way. For example, if you’re working
to find a new partner and catch yourself thinking that you don’t
deserve love, you can say “I am a valuable, loveable person and I will find a great relationship.”
Secondly, however, saying affirmations on a daily basis starts to
reshape your thinking, making them a powerful tool even when you’re
already in a good mood. Design your affirmations carefully, and try
making eye contact with yourself in the mirror when you recite them.
3. Enforcing Boundaries
If you’ve lived with negative thinking for a very long time, you might
think it’s unrealistic to just suddenly expect yourself to change your
approach. In this situation, even thought stopping and affirmations techniques may seem to merely delay negative thinking for a later date.
If this sounds familiar, you might want to spend a couple of weeks at
least enforcing boundaries when it comes to negative thinking. The idea
here is that you choose a fixed, limited period for allowing your mind
to entertain negative thoughts, and that you commit to forcibly
stopping or fighting them at every other time of the week.
When you’re reassured that you will have time to consider these
thoughts, you may find the negative thoughts seem less powerful and
have less potential to dominate your mind.
4. Writing & Destroying
If your negative thoughts are linked to a specific strong emotion like
fear, anger or jealousy, try letting them all out in writing. Use a pen
and paper, and really express all of that pent up negativity. You can
then choose a way of destroying this paper, symbolizing your commitment
to moving on. For example, you could tear it up, crush it into a ball,
burn it, or scribble over it.
For those who aren’t as keen on using words to express themselves,
artistic endeavors can have a similar impact. For example, you could
sculpt a representation of your negativity, or paint it, and then
destroy that (or change its shape).
The point of this technique is just to get some kind of physical
representation of your negativity so that you can banish it in some
satisfying symbolic way.
5. “Just Because”
You can also try to reason with yourself when you feel you are starting
to spiral into negativity. This technique involves finding a sentence
you can recite to yourself in order to acknowledge that you have power
over your bodily responses, and to increase that power over time.
Practice this approach by taking a deep, cleansing breath and say something like “Just because I’ve had some bad relationships doesn’t mean I have to do this to my body” or “Just because I’ve struggled to find a good job doesn’t mean I will never find one in the future.”
After your chosen sentence, say “Now relax” (letting the word “relax” be your cue to exhale, letting out tension and negativity).
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