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The Power of
Asking
Here is How You Can Get
Whatever You Want Quicker and Faster!
By Taidin
Suhaimin
One main reason
why people are not getting what they want is that, they don't ask enough. |
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ASKING
is a psychological push-button! said M.R. Kopmeyer. It is the quickest
way to get whatever you want. It is the fastest, easiest, surest way to
get what you WANT! Why? Because, all people have been taught, trained and
“attitude-conditioned” to do what they are ASKED. People have been "conditioned"
throughout their upbringing to do what they are ASKED to do. You push the
psychological button of ASKING and others respond by doing what you ASK!
But, how many
PEOPLE have you asked to help you get whatever you want? Any? A few? A
dozen? A hundred? How many? How often?
So, why not
start now? ASK! ASK! ASK! You have a lot of ASKING to do to succeed!! The
more you ASK, the more you will get! God has promised - "Ask and I shall
give you!"
How To ASK Successfully?
To ask, you
must:
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ASK courteously
- ASK in an extremely courteous manner.
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ASK expectantly
- in the voice and attitude that the other person will gladly do what you
courteously and expectantly ASK.
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ASK reasonably
- This applies to what you ASK and how you ASK.
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ASK persuasively.
Never DEMAND! Never use the word: “DEMAND”. Never even “sound demanding”.
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ASK pleasantly
- without pressure. Do not let your voice or manner imply pressure. Pressure
creates resistance - and resistance is the exact opposite of what you want.
What you should want is an agreement.
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ASK politely
- Let your voice and manner, in every way, imply that, the other person
will be agreeable and co-operative by gladly doing what you ASK.
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ASK firmly.
This is the most difficult and probably the most important technique of
ASKING successfully because you must give a firm impression that what you
ASK is so reasonable, logical and just - that you shall pleasantly
persist until you get it!
How to Deal with People Objections?
When a person
replies "NO" to what you have "ASKED" it could mean one or a combination
of several things.
Usually, the only real reason why
people do not instantly do what you ASK is that they are not sure that
doing what you ASK is best for them.
Most "NO" people
are just like "MAY BE" people - only they are less timid and more
direct.
Some people
say "NO" just to stall for time to think it over. They've been rushed into
decisions before - which they later regretted and that they do not want
to develop the habit - so they instantly say "NO" as self-defensive mechanism. |
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If the "NO"
is genuine - ASK WHY? Your genuine surprise will cause the other
person instinctively to wonder if perhaps he or she was wrong in saying
NO.
All you need to do is to assure them
and re-assure them until they are sure. And, remember
that you need to apply think
win/win. Ensure that what you ASK is best for them.
Keep Asking
to get what you want! Improve your ASKING methods and the results you get
will seem miraculous. ASK MORE and More People. Always have an abundance
of contacts. The LAW OF AVERAGE is based on the number of people you ASK.
The more people you ASK, the more you will get of WHATEVER you want! And
the closer you are toward getting whatever you want. By keep asking, you
are making steps forward in achieving your goals.
Ask! ASK! ASK! Often!
(c)
2009 by Taidin Suhaimin - http://www.taidinsuhaimin.com
Taidin Suhaimin
is
one of Malaysia's leading motivational speakers. He is an author and has
appeared on more than 150 organizations in Malaysia,
Brunei and Singapore as well as on Radio Malaysia Sabah Morning Motivation
Programme and on Malaysia's TV1 Morning Inspiration Programme.
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